Ok I found some more information on the HT link.
I figured out the problem. It's not so much a problem with the board as a typo. In the BIOS the options for HT link are frequencies in 200MHz increments (600-2000MHz I think are all available), but rather than setting the HT link to the stated frequency each setting relates to a multiplier.
2000 = X10
1800 = X9
1600 = X8 and so on.
So I kept trying to set my HT link at 2000 or 1800 when I was actually setting a X9 or X10 multiplier and the mobo kept it from passing my CPU/NB, which was to high once I cranked up my FSB.
So problem #1 solved
What about Load line calibration? This is a good thing right? Limit vdroop, which seems to be plaguing me. If I set my CPU to 1.5V it seems to run at 1.45V under load without Load line calibration. If I set load line calibration to about 35% it seems to keep voltage within .02 of my setting.
I found this here http://www.overclockers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=666760
So this is how Im going to go about overclocking my system. Anyone see anything I need to change before I try this let me know. Im going to set the following in the bios and slowly increase the refence clock by 10 untill it crashes or I hit 235. Is there any stability issues with having settings lower than spec? Because the fist reference clock test will be 210, so that would make my ram run at 699 Mhz, NB 1890 Mhz, and HT link at 1680. Or should I compensate the timings to keep them inline with spec? I know if its too high it will cause problems but is it the same if its too low?
CPU Northbridge Freq. x9 =2115 Mhz
PCIe Clock(Mhz) 100
HT Link Width Auto
HT Link Frequency 1.6 Ghz Which is the same as x 8 and will give me 1880
Memory Clock x3.33 = 783 Mhz
System Voltage Control
DDR2 Voltage Control Normal
NB Voltage Control Normal
SB Voltage Control Normal
CPU Voltage Control [+0.025V] 1.45 Volts