Jip, you have any kids?
I think that is why you are considerably more understanding that I am. Having read your post, I realise I overreacted a bit. Branden is a kid, and I've been treating him like an adult ... which is not fair.
However, I do disagree with a couple of things you've said. I don't think that bobservers should be sued for entering into a contract with a minor, because I don't think that anyone should be sued for that. Allowing that kind of lawsuit completely removes the freedom of other minors to enter into these kinds of contracts ... and some 14 and 15 year olds are mature enough to have these kinds of business relationships. I did, at his age, for example, and so did many of my friends. At 15, I owned a 1/3rd of a successful DJ'ing service .. the other 2/3rds were owned by two 16 year olds. If bobservers can be sued because they allowed a minor to contract a server from them ... well, I think it is sad that we legislate responsibility to that point.
I do think that bobservers was negligent in their treatment of Branden ... they contracted a service to him and failed in their service. They didn't deliver on their contract, and for THAT they are certainly liable.
Similarly, Branden is responsible for the comments made under his username on that forum, regardless of who posted them and where they posted from
. It doesn't sound like he has understood this yet. He is responsible for the use of that account ... and by giving away the username and password, he allowed others to slander / libel bobserver.
It sounds like Branden's father has negotiated some peaceful 'settlement' ... which is great ... but I hope that Branden realises that he could have been in some pretty deep legal trouble had his Dad not stepped in.
I've got 2 kids, a boy 19 (Libra) & a girl 11 (Am). Two weeks ago I was looking for Barbies to add to my collection. I sent my Barbie wish list to hubby & my daughter so she could look at my collection. "Am" came into the computer room & said, Mom, I found your FAO Rose Barbie & I'm gonna buy it for you. I asked her how she was gonna do that. She said she made an Ebay account & was gonna bid. I laughed- told her she can't do that- she's ELEVEN for christsakes. I didn't really believe she even made an Ebay account. The other day while checking out her computer I saw that she did. I explained she would end up sending mommy to jail if she used that Ebay account- scare tactics
How are kids allowed to do things like this?
Scare tactics are perfect .. that is what parents are supposed to do.
I think. I'm not a parent.
As for how
that can happen ... let's reverse the question ... how would you STOP it from happening. Is it eBay's responsibility to keep your daughter from creating an account, or yours? (This is not a rhetorical question ... I'm still bouncing this one around in my head. My initial response is to say 'both' ... but I'm interested in your comments.)
This kid needs help & with all of the knowledgable people here, I'm sure someone can tell him what to do. I'd like to see Branden post exactly what happened, in a clear, thought out post.
And this is where I went wrong.
His initial post was full of 'it is not my fault' and 'I want to get this guy back' ... when it should have been 'oh crap, I messed up, how do I fix this.'
Personal responsibility, or the lack of it, is one my pet peeves ... and, to be honest, is responsible for the rapid degradation of our nations. Do you think this would have happened to our parent's generation? Even our generation ... if I needed money for toys or luxuries, my parent's were happy to help me figure out how I could earn
it. You pointed out that there may be no jobs in his area for a kid his age ... that's a good point. When I couldn't find a job, my parents were happy to assign extra chores (in addition to those for which I was already responsible) so that I could earn some extra cash. Nothing for free ... but as a result, they taught me the value of a dollar and what it means to have a work ethic.
Damn, this post is long
How odd ... a mother who talks at length about children ... I'm shocked.
Branden came here for help, probably hoping Watch Dog or one of the editors could help him.
Actually, the original post was less a request for help, and more a diabtribe against the evils of bobservers. Hopefully, he has found some help regardless.